Sunday, November 2, 2008
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Saturday, October 11, 2008
Posted by The Willinghams at 5:50 AM
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Josh met with the church yesterday and finalized music and programs
This is the front and back of the program. The announcement is obviously the front and the scripture is the back.
This is the inside with the bridal party and the ceremony details.
We are putting things together for Friday as we are setting up the reception hall the afternoon before the wedding. We have several tubs full of decorations, center pieces, and favors. We are going to manage to put the reception hall together in two hours and then make it to the Church for the rehearsal.
Besides preparing for the big day Josh and I each had our respective bachelor/bachelorette parties this last weekend.
Josh and about 10 of his friends got together and went formula 1 racing then ate massive amounts of pizza and played poker until 2 am
I had my party and Dave and Busters. There were about 8 of us total. We snacked, drank, and played games until they closed.
We each had a great last weekend as "single" people.
Now we are working as hard as we can to finish up our respective college courses so that we can be stress free on our honeymoon.
It's hard to believe that in 3 days we will be husband and wife finally. It's such a joyous occasion that we are both looking forward to. We are so happy to be celebrating it in our church with our family and friends and to have the opportunity to see so many loved ones at once while we express our love for each other.
Posted by The Willinghams at 8:23 PM
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Saturday was my bridal shower. My best friend and Matron of Honor, Tracy threw the party for me with the help of my mom and sister. Since Joshua and I are going on a cruise to Ensenada, Mexico Tracy cooked up an amazing party with a Mexican theme. She paid attention to the tiniest details including the invitations!
Shower games included a raffle, which Kelly won.
A 20 question quiz about Josh and me; naturally my sister was the winner. And a purfume making contest, which I judged and Sandi won!
(Judging the perfume contest)
(Sandi, Andi, Kelly)
The perfume doubled as a neat favor for each guest, not to mention the great flowers hair clips that Tracy made by hand!
No bridal shower would be complete without the bride becoming completly embarassed! If you know me, then you know how easily red I become. My mom filled my gift box full of individual personal lube, which I had to move out of the way before I found the actual gift, a road map of California and a picture of Six Flags, which represented the tickets my parents bought us toward our honeymoon registry.
The embarassment didn't stop there as I open gifts from my sister which included lacy thongs in my wedding colors and foreplay bathsalts!
I was very touched by my guests' thoughtful gifts. Many people contributed to our honeymoon registry, which will help Joshua and I have a wonderful honeymoon!
(My Godson, Thomas James)
The party went so well and I am forever greatful to my wonderful MOH Tracy. Not only for the wonderful things she has done as my matron of honor, but for introducing me to Joshua in the first place. No one could ask for a better friend!
Posted by The Willinghams at 9:35 PM
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
We are working on several projects including seating arrangements. That means if you haven't sent in your RSVP then we need you to do it ASAP! The RSVP by date is Friday September 19th, that's this Friday! We have to let the catering company know about a head count by the 26th, so if we haven't heard from you by Friday I guess we'll be making phone calls!
My dress fittings are coming along well. I had the first fitting done and the seamstress wasn't in the store when I went in last week. They had to take quite a bit in on the sides and it's still too big so I have to have it taken in again. I go down on Friday to have that worked on. They did complete the bustle and it looks great!
Three under and three over! They numbered the under bustles for my mom and MOH so that it makes it easy the day of. Sorry, but I don't have any more pictures. You'll have to be at the church or wait until after the photographer sends us pictures to see the rest! We hope that you'll be at the church though!
Tomorrow we are going to pick up a marriage licence so that we are legally united on October 11th. Saturday is my bridal shower, being hosted by my wondering MOH, mother, and sister. I will post pictures of the shower including the awesome invitation that Tracy made. While I'm at the shower Josh is going to get fitted for his tux and work on getting his passport. We have so much to look forward to!
Posted by The Willinghams at 7:33 PM
Monday, September 1, 2008
After several attempts that were not flattering or simply didn't look right we finally found a style that works, but requires 6 separate bustles. I'll wear it down at the church but will bustle it at the reception.
They will call me to set up my second fitting and maybe I'll remember the camera, or maybe I'll hold off and make everyone wait until the wedding to see the completed work.
Also, the shop owner had me put my veil on with my dress and it does look very nice with it. It completes the look, so I'm not so upset that I have to wear the veil after all.
Posted by The Willinghams at 5:33 AM
Saturday, August 23, 2008
It was the day to put together the center pieces and the favors. Josh and I decided to make our own so that we could express our own style and save some money. IKEA was a big help as all of the vases and candle holders were purchased from there. All the ribbon, flowers, and candles were purchased at Hobby Lobby and a few other craft stores.
About a month prior Tracy, my MOH, came over and help me cut all of the flowers so that they wouldn't be too long. Unfortunately she was ill and wasn't able to make it today. She really helped cut the day by 3 hours by helping cut the flowers previously.
Initially they were going to go on the outside, but ended up being too big to place on the vase so my mom and sister thought of the idea of putting them in the bottom of the vase that way when people finish the chocolate kisses that they would see our label and realize who in fact gave them the tummy ache from all the dark chocolate!
After much hot gluing of ribbon around flowers and around the vases we filled them with dark chocolate kisses. Above Amy (bridesmaid) is arranging kisses into the vase to properly hold the flowers up.
My mom and my sister came up with the idea of wrapping ribbon around the favors and adding the stickers I had printed up at Zazzle.com.
My sister refused to be photographed further than this picture. She was mortified that I posted the pictures of her in the bridesmaid dress back in June.
Posted by The Willinghams at 11:01 PM
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Josh and I are getting married in 56 days. That is less than 2 months. We are feeling very excited for our big day.
We've paid the reception hall this month and that only leaves us balances for the linens and the catering. We need a more finalized guest list before we pay them because the balanced is determined by the number of guests.
We started invitations last weekend but came to a snag in the process. It was our first "crisis" concerning the wedding.
We took one invitation to the post office to purchase the proper postage for them and the post office told us they would not mail them.
Folded they look like this. You are suppose to address and stamp the invitation and then send it as is. We choose this style to eliminate paper waste not to mention envelope stuffing. Apparently they will get stuck in the machines at the post office and they can not guarantee they will arrive intact. It was suggested that we put them in envelopes.
I thought I was going to have a heart attack, but felt fortunate that we hadn't already addressed all the invitations and put postage on them. We made several phone calls to family to find suggestions. We looked at office supply stores but the only envelopes they had were the basic legal size, not ones that would fit or look nice.
We called the wedding store we purchased the invites through and they could order envelopes but not in enough time to send them out. They were puzzled by the post office as they've sold this style with no problems before.
We finally found a stationary store that sold us envelopes. The owner had stock for her personal card printing use and felt bad after we told her the situation. The envelops are white but are fancy enough to look as though they came with the invitations.
We decided to use the printer to print the addresses on but have not gotten that far yet.
Last weekend we placed postage on the response cards and envelops. We also printed out labels with our wedding website. Josh registered our blog for the next two years so people can find us at http://joshuaandvictoria.com . We plan on posting pictures and stories about our honeymoon adventure as well as random updates of our married life together.
We hope that this weekend we will get the envelopes printed and the invitations out in the mail on Monday. The respond by date is September 19th and it will be helpful to have a general idea of how many guests plan to attend so that we can work on catering and linens.
Posted by The Willinghams at 12:03 PM
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
We really fell in love with these invitations because they wouldn't cause us to have to use envelopes.
Posted by The Willinghams at 12:30 PM
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Josh and I are confirmed Episcopalians. We were confirmed and became members of All Saints in May 2007.
Even before we became engaged we knew that we would get married in our church in front of our family and friends by our favorite Priest, Reverend Marian Fortner.
As required by our church we must have pre-marital counseling prior to the ceremony. We will have four sessions on the following topics:
The Sacrament of Marriage
- A review of marriage in the Christian Church and in the Episcopal tradition from the Book of Common Prayer. Consider scripture selections.
Being with Others
- Dealing with differences in needs for other friendships and relationships; balancing time with spouse and others; healthy and unhealthy boundaries.
- Unfair fights; good fights; identifying abuse; distinguishing between complaints, criticism and contempt; understanding differences, stress and traditions.
The Gift of Children
- To have or not to have; children from previous relationships; maintaining balance; raising children.
We had our first session last week and we covered the sacrament of marriage. We discussed what type of ceremony we would have and what that would entail and what kinds of reading we would have.
It was very exciting to talk about. We decided we would have a traditional service which includes a Eucharist.
Josh will walk down the isle with Rev. Fortner and then the bridal party will descend and then I will follow being escorted by my father.
It will begin with "Dearly beloved;" and then the declaration of consent. The ministry of the word will take place. We will have readings from the old testament, new testament and a Gospel. We chose Tobit 8: 6-8, 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 and John 15:9-12. After the readings will be the marriage and prayers then the blessing of the marriage and the peace, where Josh will be able to kiss his bride. To bring the ceremony to an end there will be a Eucharist and a post communion prayer. Afterwards the wedding party will leave and their will be a receiving line.
It seems like a lot, but it will only be about an hour long. Having a Eucharist is very important to the both of us. No one is required to partake in the Eucharist, but everyone is welcomed to. There are no rules like in the Catholic church.
Being able to talk about the ceremony and knowing what will happen is so exciting.
Tomorrow we meet again with Rev. Fortner to talk about being with others. We want to be able to have strong connections with friends while still respecting our marriage together. We'll also be able to set up appointments for the final two meetings where we will talk about fair fighting and children.
Neither one of us are anxious about the topics because we hardly argue as it is and we both want children, but not sure how many. Being able to talk about it will be good for us.
Posted by The Willinghams at 6:41 PM
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Joshua and I chose purple and black as our wedding colors. We are naturally earth tone individuals. When you walk into our home there are tans, browns, reds and greens with various accents of black.
For our wedding we wanted to go outside of our comfort zone.
Ever since I was a child purple had always been my favorite color, so that was my first suggestion. We paired it with black and it was the look that we both wanted.
To start our theme we first looked at what the wedding party would wear. After getting the color done the rest was easy. I knew the designer that I wanted for the bridesmaid dresses so I hopped on the Alfred Angelo website and started browsing for styles.
I had a couple of styles in mind and took my sister Andi and my brother's fiance Kelly to a bridal shop who carried each of the designs. The ones I liked the most were tea length and strapless, but just didn't quite look right.
I spent some more time envisioning the wedding and determined that I wanted long dresses so I started looking for other styles when I found the perfect dress for the girls.
I took my sister and my Matron of honor down with me to look at the dress in person and knew that it was the one for the bridal party. It looked flattering on both of them and knew it would be perfect for all of the girls.
It took 3 months for the dress to come in and we went to pick them up last Friday. We have a total of 5 bridesmaids and a flower girl.
Unfortunately not all the bridesmaids could come with due to conflicting schedules.
Hannah, Josh's niece, is our flower girl. You'll notice in the group picture she is in a Jr. bridesmaid dress. We choose to go this route because my dress isn't a stark white and finding a flower girl dress that is in her size was just very difficult, not to mention I couldn't find a dress that I liked.
Tracy is my Matron of Honor. She is the entire reason that Joshua and I met in the first place. Her and her husband, who is also a groomsmen, insisted on a double date and we hit it off from the start. They are the match makers in our little romance.
Kelly is my brother Rusty's Fiance and just like a sister to me. If possible she would be the female version of my brother.
My sister Andi, who puts up with all of my craziness tried on a dozen dresses before I found this one. I promised her no butt bows or ugly dresses. The only problem she has this this dress is that it has a low cut back which means she, and the other girls, will need special bras to wear underneath.
While the girls were trying on their dresses I couldn't fight the urge to put on the sample dress again. It was a lot of fun to walk around with the girls in our dresses. The contrast their colors bring to my dress is just beautiful.
I wish that Amy and Lindsey could have been there, then the Bride's party would be complete.
Most of them will also have to have their dresses taken in some. Thank goodness for alterations!
On Saturday Joshua and I went out to pick out the formal wear for the men in his party. Josh will also have 5 groomsmen. Chris is his best man, with James , Bruce, Alain, and my brother Rusty as the groomsmen. His nephew John-John will be the ring bearer and he will have Nai and Greg usher. All the men, including my father and his father will be in a tux.
Josh picked out the style of the suit, which has three buttons. The store did not have an exact match to the bridesmaid dresses in a vest so we choose one that had another shade we are using for accents. The vest will be worn with a black shirt and the longer neck tie rather than the bow. To incorporate the main purple color we purchases pocket silks that do match the eggplant color of the dresses.
Posted by The Willinghams at 9:20 AM